Why do you keep finding yourself in the same relationships over and over again?

In relationships, every person plays certain roles, consciously or unconsciously. These scenarios are shaped by personal beliefs, life experiences, and karmic tasks. The Matrix of Destiny helps reveal the role we most often take on in love and understand how it affects our relationships.

Why is this important? When we become aware of our role, we can change destructive scenarios, create a harmonious union, and avoid repeating negative experiences.

1. The Rescuer
   Always strives to help their partner, even at their own expense.
   Often chooses a partner who needs "fixing."
   May suffer from emotional burnout.
2. The Victim
   Feels helpless, in need of protection.
   Prone to relationships where the partner takes the lead. May provoke the rescuer into helping but does not seek change.
3. The Persecutor
   Controls, criticizes, demands.
   May suppress the partner, believing they are right.
   Draws the partner into the victim scenario.
4. Parent-Child
   One partner takes on the role of a caring "parent," the other—an infantile "child."
   Often manifests in control, mentoring, or financial dependence.
5. Two Adults
   Mature partners who respect each other's boundaries and personal space. Based on equality, mutual growth, and awareness.
6. The Teacher
   Provides the partner with important life lessons. May be demanding, expecting growth from the partner. Sometimes the relationship turns into lessons, after which the partners part ways.
7. The Mirror
   The partner reflects your inner fears, traumas, or shadow aspects. The relationship serves to bring awareness and transformation of internal processes.
8. The Comrade
   Partners unite for a common goal, supporting each other. The union is based on mutual aid and a shared mission.

The Destiny Matrix includes numerical codes (arcana) that show the energies we bring into relationships. Each number carries a specific meaning:

Arcana | Influence on relationship roles
3 – The Empress | Care, maternal energy. Can manifest as a Parent or Rescuer.
4 – The Emperor | Control, protection, leadership. Often takes on the role of Persecutor or Teacher.
5 – The Hierophant | Spiritual mentorship, traditional values. Can be a Teacher in a relationship.
6 – The Lovers | Symbolizes choice in love, sometimes duality between different roles.
7 – The Chariot | Driving force, but sometimes imposes its will on the partner. Can be a Persecutor.
8 – Justice | Balance, relationship analysis. Helps to recognize one's role.
9 – The Hermit | Self-discovery, wisdom. Often plays the role of Teacher or Mirror.
10 – Wheel of Fortune | Change, cycles. Influence on relationships is inconsistent.
11 – Strength | Charisma, leadership. Can be either an ally or a Persecutor.
12 – The Hanged Man | Sacrifice, karmic working. Tendency to play the Victim role.
13 – Death | Deep transformation. Helps to break free from old scripts.
14 – Temperance | Harmony, balance. Promotes equal relationships.
15 – The Devil | Temptations, addictions. Often involves the Persecutor-Victim scenario.
16 – The Tower | Destruction of old structures. Can abruptly change its role.
17 – The Star | Hope, inspiration. Often a Teacher or Ally.
18 – The Moon | Illusions, fears. Can provoke dependent relationships.
19 – The Sun | Leadership, egocentrism. Can manifest as a Parent.
20 – Judgment | Awareness of karmic lessons. Helps to break free from old scripts.
21 – The World | Completion, mature relationships. Often found in a union of two Adults.
22 – The Fool | Lightness, new experiences. Can change roles, trying out different scenarios.

Brad (21,6,3), Angelina (15,8,20) = Mirror, struggle for leadership.

Charles (6,20,14), Diana (12,19,7) = Parent-Child, Teacher and Victim.

Johnny (12,3,18), Amber (15,19,4) = Persecutor-Victim, karmic attraction.

Kim (21,5,11), Kanye (6,22,16) = Teacher-Companion, but with control imbalances.

Emma (15,6,18), Evan (21,6,12) = Mirror and Teacher, relationships with intense emotional trials.

Justin (9,5,14), Selena (15,7,19) = Rescuer and Victim roles, emotional dependency.

Dita (6,17,11), Marilyn (21,3,9) = Persecutor and Victim, karmic tension and split.

Mindfulness is the key to harmonious relationships. The Matrix of Destiny helps to see not only one's role scenarios but also the paths to their transformation. When we understand our role, we can make a choice in favor of healthy, mindful relationships.

Arcana | Destructive Scenario | How to Break Free?
3 – The Empress | Overprotectiveness, self-sacrifice | Learn to care for yourself, set boundaries, stop trying to "save" your partner.
4 – The Emperor | Control, suppression | Practice trust, let go of situations, learn to listen to your partner.
5 – The Hierophant | Dogmatism, rigidity | Develop mental flexibility, be open to new things.
6 – The Lovers | Indecisiveness, dependency | Recognize your true desires, learn to make conscious choices.
7 – The Chariot | Pressure, desire to dominate | Give your partner freedom, work on trust.
8 – Justice | Harsh criticism, coldness | Practice empathy, accept your partner with their flaws.
9 – The Hermit | Isolation, withdrawal | Learn to open up to the world, build emotional closeness.
10 – Wheel of Fortune | Dependency on external circumstances | Work on conscious choices, take responsibility for your life.
11 – Strength | Pressure, imposing one's will | Practice patience, learn to listen and understand your partner.
12 – The Hanged Man | Self-sacrifice, dependency | Find balance between yourself and your partner, don’t lose yourself in the relationship.
13 – Death | Fear of change, clinging to the past | Accept change as part of life, don’t be afraid to let go of the old.
15 – The Devil | Toxic, dependent relationships | Work on self-worth, recognize what you truly want.
16 – The Tower | Destructive conflicts, sudden breakups | Find constructive ways to resolve issues, don’t fear change.
17 – The Star | Unrealistic expectations, illusions | Be realistic, build relationships on trust and honesty.
18 – The Moon | Fears, illusions, emotional instability | Work on mindfulness, distinguish reality from fantasies.
19 – The Sun | Narcissism, egocentrism | Practice empathy, consider your partner's needs.
20 – Judgment | Judgmental attitude, rigidity | Learn to accept people without judgment, work on tolerance.
21 – The World | Fear of intimacy, desire for independence | Balance freedom and closeness, learn to be open.
22 – The Fool | Frivolity, avoiding responsibility | Learn to make conscious decisions, value stability.