In relationships, each individual plays specific roles, consciously or unconsciously. These scripts are shaped by personal beliefs, life experiences, and karmic tasks. The destiny matrix helps reveal which role we most often assume in love and understand how it influences our relationships.
Why is this important? When we become aware of our role, we can change destructive patterns, create a harmonious union, and avoid repeating negative experiences.
Main Relationship Scripts
- Savior
Always strives to help the partner, even at the expense of oneself.
Often chooses a partner who needs "fixing".
May suffer from emotional burnout. - Victim
Feels helpless and needs protection.
Inclined towards relationships where the partner takes on a leading role. May provoke the savior to help but does not seek change. - Persecutor
Controls, criticizes, demands.
May suppress the partner, believing they are right.
Includes the partner in the victim scenario. - Parent-Child
One partner takes on the caring "parent" role, the other is an infantile "child".
Often expressed through control, mentorship, or financial dependency. - Two Adults
Mature partners who respect each other's boundaries and personal space. Based on equality, mutual development, and consciousness. - Teacher
Provides the partner with important life lessons. Can be demanding, expecting growth from the partner. Sometimes relationships turn into lessons after which partners part ways. - Mirror
The partner reflects your internal fears, traumas, or shadow sides. Relationships serve for awareness and transformation of internal processes. - Ally
Partners unite for a common goal, supporting each other. The union is based on mutual help and shared mission.
How Does the Destiny Matrix Reflect Role Scripts?
The destiny matrix includes numerical codes (arcana) that show which energies we bring into relationships. Each number carries a specific meaning:
Arcana | Influence on Relationship Roles
3 – Empress | Care, maternal energy. Can manifest as Parent or Savior.
4 – Emperor | Control, protection, leadership. Often takes on the Persecutor or Teacher role.
5 – Hierophant | Spiritual mentorship, traditional values. Can be a Teacher in the pair.
6 – Lovers | Symbolizes choice in love, sometimes split between different roles.
7 – Chariot | Leading force, but sometimes imposes their will on the partner. Can be a Persecutor.
8 – Justice | Balance, analysis of relationships. Helps in understanding one's role.
9 – Hermit | Self-awareness, wisdom. Often plays the role of Teacher or Mirror.
10 – Wheel of Fortune | Changes, cycles. Influence on relationships is variable.
11 – Strength | Charisma, leadership. Can be an Ally or a Persecutor.
12 – Hanged Man | Sacrifice, karmic processing. Inclined towards the Victim role.
13 – Death | Deep transformation. Helps to exit old patterns.
14 – Temperance | Harmony, balance. Fosters equal relationships.
15 – Devil | Temptations, dependencies. Often involves the Persecutor-Victim scenario.
16 – Tower | Destruction of old structures. Can sharply change one's role.
17 – Star | Hope, inspiration. Often a Teacher or Ally.
18 – Moon | Illusions, fears. Can provoke dependent relationships.
19 – Sun | Leadership, egocentrism. May manifest as Parent.
20 – Judgment | Awareness of karmic lessons. Helps to break old scripts.
21 – World | Completion, mature relationships. Often found in unions of two Adults.
22 – Fool | Lightness, new experiences. Can change roles, trying different scripts.
Role Scripts in Star Couples
Brad (21,6,3), Angelina (15,8,20) = Mirror, power struggle for leadership.
Charles (6,20,14), Diana (12,19,7) = Parent-Child, Teacher and Victim roles.
Johnny (12,3,18), Amber (15,19,4) = Persecutor-Victim, karmic attraction.
Kim (21,5,11), Kanye (6,22,16) = Teacher-Ally, but with control imbalances.
Emma (15,6,18), Evan (21,6,12) = Mirror and Teacher, relationships with intense emotional tests.
Justin (9,5,14), Selena (15,7,19) = Savior and Victim roles, emotional dependency.
Dita (6,17,11), Marilyn (21,3,9) = Persecutor and Victim, karmic tension and division.
How to Break Free from a Destructive Script?
Awareness is the key to harmonious relationships. The destiny matrix helps not only to identify your role scripts but also to find ways to transform them. When we understand our role, we can choose healthier, more conscious relationships.
Arcana | Destructive Script | How to Exit It?
3 – Empress | Overprotection, self-sacrifice | Learn to care for yourself, set boundaries, and avoid trying to "save" your partner.
4 – Emperor | Control, suppression | Practice trust, let go of the situation, learn to listen to your partner.
5 – Hierophant | Dogmatism, rigidity | Develop mental flexibility, be open to new experiences.
6 – Lovers | Indecision, dependence | Recognize your true desires, learn to make conscious choices.
7 – Chariot | Pressure, desire to dominate | Give your partner freedom, work on trust.
8 – Justice | Harsh criticism, coldness | Practice empathy, accept your partner with their flaws.
9 – Hermit | Isolation, withdrawal into oneself | Learn to open up to the world, foster emotional closeness.
10 – Wheel of Fortune | Dependence on external circumstances | Work on conscious choices, take responsibility for your life.
11 – Strength | Pressure, imposing your will | Practice patience, learn to listen and understand your partner.
12 – Hanged Man | Sacrifice, dependence | Find balance between yourself and your partner, avoid dissolving into the relationship.
13 – Death | Fear of change, holding onto the past | Embrace change as a part of life, don’t be afraid to let go of the old.
15 – Devil | Codependency, toxic relationships | Work on self-worth, clarify what you truly want.
16 – Tower | Destructive conflicts, sudden breakups | Find constructive ways to resolve issues, don’t fear change.
17 – Star | Unrealistic expectations, illusions | Be realistic, build relationships on trust and honesty.
18 – Moon | Fears, illusions, emotional instability | Work on awareness, distinguish reality from fantasies.
19 – Sun | Narcissism, egocentrism | Practice empathy, consider your partner’s needs.
20 – Judgment | Judgmental attitude, rigidity | Learn to accept people without judgment, work on tolerance.
21 – World | Fear of intimacy, desire for independence | Balance freedom and closeness, learn to be open.
22 – Fool | Light-mindedness, avoidance of responsibility | Learn to make conscious decisions, value stability.
