In relationships, each person plays specific roles, consciously or unconsciously. These scripts are shaped by personal beliefs, life experiences, and karmic tasks. The destiny matrix helps reveal which role we most often assume in love and understand how it influences our relationships.
Why is this important? When we become aware of our role, we can change destructive patterns, create harmonious unions, and avoid repeating negative experiences.
Main Relationship Scripts
- Rescuer
Always seeks to help the partner, even at the expense of themselves.
Often chooses a partner who needs "fixing".
May suffer from emotional burnout. - Victim
Feels helpless and needs protection.
Inclined to relationships where the partner takes on a leading role. May provoke the rescuer to help but does not seek change. - Persecutor
Controls, criticizes, demands.
May suppress the partner, believing they are right.
Includes the partner in the victim script. - Parent-Child
One partner assumes the caring "parent" role, the other is an infantile "child".
Often expressed through control, mentorship, or financial dependence. - Two Adults
Mature partners respecting each other's boundaries and personal space. Based on equality, mutual development, and awareness. - Teacher
Provides the partner with important life lessons. May be demanding, expecting growth from the partner. Sometimes relationships turn into lessons after which partners part ways. - Mirror
The partner reflects your inner fears, traumas, or shadow sides. Relationships serve for awareness and transformation of internal processes. - Ally
Partners unite for a common goal, support each other. The union is based on mutual help and shared mission.
How does the destiny matrix reflect role scripts?
The destiny matrix includes numerical codes (arcana) that show which energies we bring into relationships. Each number has a specific meaning:
Arcana | Influence on relationship roles
3 – Empress | Care, maternal energy. Can manifest as Parent or Rescuer.
4 – Emperor | Control, protection, leadership. Often takes on the Persecutor or Teacher role.
5 – Hierophant | Spiritual mentorship, traditional values. Can be a Teacher in the pair.
6 – Lovers | Symbolizes choice in love, sometimes split between different roles.
7 – Chariot | Driving force, but sometimes imposes their will on the partner. Can be a Persecutor.
8 – Justice | Balance, analysis of relationships. Helps to become aware of one's role.
9 – Hermit | Self-awareness, wisdom. Often plays the role of Teacher or Mirror.
10 – Wheel of Fortune | Changes, cycles. Influence on relationships is variable.
11 – Strength | Charisma, leadership. Can be an ally or a Persecutor.
12 – Hanged Man | Sacrifice, karmic processing. Inclined towards the Victim role.
13 – Death | Deep transformation. Helps to exit old scripts.
14 – Temperance | Harmony, balance. Promotes equal relationships.
15 – Devil | Temptations, dependencies. Often involves the Persecutor-Victim script.
16 – Tower | Destruction of old structures. Can sharply change their role.
17 – Star | Hope, inspiration. Often a Teacher or Ally.
18 – Moon | Illusions, fears. Can provoke dependent relationships.
19 – Sun | Leadership, egocentrism. Can manifest as Parent.
20 – Judgment | Awareness of karmic lessons. Helps to break free from old scripts.
21 – World | Completion, mature relationships. Often found in a union of two Adults.
22 – Fool | Lightness, new experiences. Can change roles, trying out different scripts.
Role Scripts in Star Couples
Brad (21,6,3), Angelina (15,8,20) = Mirror, power struggle for leadership.
Charles (6,20,14), Diana (12,19,7) = Parent-Child, Teacher and Victim.
Johnny (12,3,18), Amber (15,19,4) = Persecutor-Victim, karmic attraction.
Kim (21,5,11), Kanye (6,22,16) = Teacher-Ally, but with control imbalances.
Emma (15,6,18), Evan (21,6,12) = Mirror and Teacher, relationships with intense emotional tests.
Justin (9,5,14), Selena (15,7,19) = Rescuer and Victim roles, emotional dependency.
Dita (6,17,11), Marilyn (21,3,9) = Persecutor and Victim, karmic tension and division.
How to Break Free from a Destructive Script?
Awareness is the key to harmonious relationships. The destiny matrix helps not only to see your role scripts but also to find ways to transform them. When we understand our role, we can choose healthier, conscious relationships.
Arcana | Destructive script | How to overcome it?
3 – Empress | Overprotection, self-sacrifice | Learn to care for yourself, set boundaries, and avoid trying to "save" your partner.
4 – Emperor | Control,
oppression | Practice trust, let go of the situation, learn to listen to your partner.
5 – Hierophant | Dogmatism,
rigidity | Develop flexibility in thinking, be open to new ideas.
6 – Lovers | Indecision, dependence | Recognize your true desires, learn to make conscious choices.
7 – Chariot | Pressure, desire to dominate | Give your partner freedom, work on trust.
8 – Justice | Harsh criticism, coldness | Practice empathy, accept your partner with their flaws.
9 – Hermit | Isolation, withdrawal
into oneself | Learn to open up to the world, build emotional closeness.
10 – Wheel of Fortune | Dependence on external circumstances | Work on conscious choices, take responsibility for your life.
11 – Strength | Pressure, imposing your will | Practice patience, learn to hear and understand your partner.
12 – Hanged Man | Sacrifice, dependence | Find balance between yourself and your partner, avoid dissolving in the relationship.
13 – Death | Fear of change, clinging to the past | Embrace change as a part of life, don’t be afraid to let go of the old.
15 – Devil | Dependencies, toxic relationships | Work on self-worth, understand what you truly want.
16 – Tower | Destructive conflicts, sudden breakups | Find ways to resolve issues constructively, don’t fear change.
17 – Star | Unrealistic expectations, illusions | Be realistic, build relationships on trust and honesty.
18 – Moon | Fears, illusions, emotional instability | Work on awareness, distinguish reality from fantasies.
19 – Sun | Narcissism, egocentrism | Practice empathy, consider your partner’s needs.
20 – Judgment | Judgmental attitude, rigidity | Learn to accept people without judgment, work on tolerance.
21 – World | Fear of intimacy, desire for independence | Balance freedom and closeness, learn to be open.
22 – Fool | Light-mindedness, avoidance of responsibility | Learn to make conscious decisions, value stability.
